January 2013 Goals and year-long goals

BAH….I looked at my blog in January 2013, and realized I still had December 2012 goals up:

jan-goals-fail

 

Now this doesn’t seem like a big deal….but if 22 days into January I’m JUST noticing this, it clearly means something’s off.

And there has been.

The end of the year always gets a bit crazy….and in 2012 I totally embraced it by kind of “stopping work” for a while.

I was so busy going out of town, going to weddings (I was invited to NINE weddings in 2012!!), distracted by birthday festivities (including an unforgettable trip to Cuba), that I literally did nothing some days, and didn’t care.

But then 2013 finally swung around, and it was time to work again.

Unfortunately, “starting to use your brain again” is a lot like going back to the gym after taking 2 months off.  IT’S HARD TO GET BACK TO WHERE YOU WERE.

I believe it was Epictetus who said:

Books are like the training weights of the mind.

I vividly remember hearing that quote for the first time, and suddenly realize the brain is very much like a muscle….if you train it well (consistently), it will perform well.  If you don’t, it will rot away.

Well my brain kind of rotted during that time, and the result was lazy ass days.

You can probably relate…..I would wake up in my apartment, it’s cold outside, maybe a little gloomy…..and the draw off just “sleeping a little more” in my warm bed is WAY better than waking up.

When I would finally wake my lazy ass up:
I’d have some tea or a smoothie, go to the gym (conveniently inside my apt complex), do some household chores…..and then TAKE A NAP.  Take a nap?? From what effort?

It’s like laziness begets MORE laziness.  Here’s what a worthless lazy-ass looks like:

nev-doing-nothing

 

OK OK OK ….enough complaining about being lazy, and onto the solutions.

Clearly I was lacking something important: ACCOUNTABILITY.

I often use this blog as a way to keep accountable, but unfortunately there’s no consequences to NOT accomplishing goals.  So I did a little Googling, and quickly found an Accountability Coach.

Now this isn’t necessarily a life coach, or a business coach….this is someone who makes sure I accomplish major things each week.

The trick to this, is to NOT find someone who will simply yell at me for not doing something.  That kind of accountability fades when the person isn’t around….and after a while you just grow annoyed and resentful.

I wanted someone more like Adam of MyBodyTutor who changes your habits based on talking about why you want them, your goals….yadda yadda.  This method worked really well during my six-pack experiment, so I figure it’ll work again.

So now I have an accountability coach.  It’s already got me back on track….and gets me nervous when approaching a deadline I set, and haven’t done it.  GOOD!

 

……the second part of this is I hired a personal trainer.  

I’ve never felt I needed one, but an experience a friend had was pretty damn great, so I’m giving it a shot.

The reason is:
I (sort-of) know how to exercise, but in my head, I’ll only push hard as I “think” I can go.  The right trainer will push me WAY harder.  They’ll also take me out of the comfort of the same-old exercises I’m used to.

EXAMPLE:
The first time we met, he made me do all these weird poses and bends that were purposely designed to find where I’m weakest.  Turns out flexibility in my back is crappy, and some of my vertical shoulder movements are stiff.

I already knew I’m not very flexible in those areas (it becomes obvious when I do Bikram Yoga), so I always do exercises that don’t push on those areas too much.  BUT THE TRAINER DOESN’T CARE.

So the first time we actually did a full workout, he purposely had me doing “seemingly simple” exercises…..but when performed correctly, they directly focused on my weak areas.   They would get so tiring, I would’ve normally given up….but since there’s someone with a close eye on me and pushing me…..I kept doing them.

 

ANYHOW, so here were my January 2013 goals I wrote out in December 2012, and I’m finally posting them:

january-2013-goals

 

 

Here’s some goals for 2013 I plotted out on the 7 foot tall mirror in my living room with dry erase markers (didn’t feel like writing it on a small piece of paper):

2013-mirror-goals

 

On a closing note…..here’s a great interview with Conan O’brien (being serious) and Jack White talking about Jack White’s work habits.  When he finds himself too comfortable, he gets ZERO done…..so he sets up obligations that he must meet, so he actually gets his work done:

http://teamcoco.com/video/serious-jibber-jabber-04-jack-white

 

 

Hope your brain is off to a good start this year :-)
-Nev

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    Blog posted on: January 22, 2013

    6 comments on “January 2013 Goals and year-long goals

    1. Mike Kawula

      Love the “Books are like the training weights of the mind.”

      Hiring an “Accountability Coach” is awesome. Are they doing anything different that posting your goals each month here for everyone to see does?

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      1. Neville Post author

        YUP! In fact, I don’t just want someone to say “HEY, did you do this yet????”

        That won’t work in the longrun.

        You can spank a high-school student into doing work, but when he goes off to college and has freedom it won’t stick as well.

        Instead he analyzes WHY and WHY NOT I did certain things. It’s kinda hippy-ish, but not really.

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    2. Mitchel

      For 2013, my goal will be to save up! I have missed a lot of opportunities to save money because of mindless spending. This year is going to be different because I set aside the money and the rest goes to disposable income.

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